Friday, July 20, 2012

Surviving a Life Changing Event - Dealing with the Personal Nature of Survival


Surviving a disaster is often just the beginning of any ordeal. A disaster can have an immediate and lasting effect on every aspect of your life. This can completely change the circumstances you may have to deal with after the disaster. It is this personal nature of survival that often catches people by surprise and then manages to leave them in a vulnerable position.

Having recently survived a heart attack, there were some obvious vulnerabilities that would require changes in my preparations. There were also some things that I had done right that worked to my advantage. If you develop even minor health problems, you’d better be prepared to deal with the changes that are going to be required to get your life back on track.

Now for an old guy in his early sixties to survive a heart attack is a pretty good accomplishment. You often don’t get a second chance. When I questioned the doctors about it, they said the fact that I was in relatively good health was the probably the most important factor in this case. Unfortunately, surgery was needed to correct the problem and this created a whole new set of problems.

The first thing that disappeared was my independence.  I had to rely almost completely upon someone else to get anything accomplished. With my physical abilities severely limited, it was going to take a good support network to manage even the simplest of activities. Having to rely almost totally on someone else to accomplish even the most routine and mundane of activities can be extremely hard to accept, especially if you've been fiercely independent most of your life. Even simple things like getting dressed became an almost overwhelming task and you could forget about things like driving a vehicle or having to carry anything with substantial weight. Doing it myself just wasn’t going to happen.

The next thing that started disappearing was money. Even with good health insurance, there are going to be a wide variety of extra expenses that are going to pop up. Deductibles and co-pays can add up quickly but it’s all the little things that can leave you in bind very quickly. Fuel expenses for trips back and forth can also add substantially to the cost. When combined with the added cost of medications or the need for a special diet, it won’t take long for your finances to be suffering a disaster of their own as a result. This is also true for other types of disasters.

Time also becomes critical and has a very real and personal impact on your situation. You will need time to heal and depending upon the nature of your problem the amount of time needed will vary greatly. This could affect your job status or any other plans you may have made to work on or complete other projects that may have already been scheduled. Things may literally come to a halt until your recovery is complete. This could be anything from a few days to a couple of weeks in the case of a minor event or several months or even years to overcome a major event.

So what are some of the common factors that will help in dealing with the personal nature of survival? There are a few basic items that may help you in this respect when dealing with a disaster.

Common Factors

1. Maintenance - Maintenance should be a priority. Whether it’s your body, your vehicle, your gear or your home, if you don’t work to keep it in the best possible shape, you could be seriously endangering your ability to survive. Always make sure that everything is in the best condition possible. If you’ve got health issues, then seek out ways to make your situation better. If you have problems with your vehicles or gear, work to resolve or correct the problems.

2. The Emergency Fund - Whether you are trying to return to normal after an illness, injury or some other natural disaster, you are going to need extra funds. Maintaining the maximum emergency fund possible will help you overcome this obstacle.

3. Time Management - Time can be a friend as well as an enemy. It’s how you make use of it that determines its true value. Utilizing your time in a positive manner will allow you to achieve the fastest results.  Make time work for you instead of against you.

4. Support Network - There may come a time when you will be unable to handle things by yourself. In cases such as this, you will need family members and friends who can help you, until you can get things back to normal; you are going to need all the help you can get. Whether you’re doing repairs or just need a helping hand while you are recuperating from an injury or an illness, you will need the support of family and friends.

These are just some of the common factors when it comes to dealing the personal nature of survival. Survival will always be an extremely personal experience and you should always strive to be prepared to handle any of the lifestyle changes that may occur.

I also visited with my friend John Wesley Smith on his radio program where we further discussed options for being prepared for life changing events. Here's the link:




Staying above the water line!

Riverwalker


10 comments:

Anonymous said...

I'm glad you are on the mend from your incident. It is indeed scary. Five years ago, I had a somewhat similar occurence - a sudden stay at hospital was required. It was very scary for a person who had never been in harm's way (i.e. military or LEO). All my preps importance reduced to one simple fact - I could not catch my breath just WALKING a 100 feet.

I was stubborn and tried to tell my wife I would see doctor when I got back home (we were on vacation), but she wouldn't hear of it. She drove to hospital emergency and I had to go in. Doctor who checked me in was smiling and I was in a pissy mood.

WHAT ARE YOU SMILING AT?

OH, ALL THE WORK THAT YOUR WIFE SAVED ME BRINGING YOU IN. A FEW HOURS LATER, YOU'D BE COMING IN AN AMBULANCE AND A TEAM OF US WOULD BE WORKING LIKE HELL TO KEEP YOU ALIVE.

He edged closer, looked me in the eye and said,

YOUR WIFE SAVED YOUR LIFE TODAY.



Oh.


That brings some perspective. I was scared like I said and was wondering what was going to happen to me. Then a thought occurred.

YOU ARE IN AN EMERGENCY UNIT OF A HOSPITAL WITH PEOPLE TRAINED TO FIX YOU, IN A CITY THAT HAS LOTS OF SPECIALISTS THAT HANDLE HEART PROBLEMS. YOU ARE EXACTLY WHERE YOU ARE SUPPOSED TO BE - SO QUIT WORRYING AND RELAX, WHATEVER THAT IS GOING TO HAPPEN WILL OCCUR WITHOUT ANY HELP FROM YOU.

Its been some years and I am in healthier shape because of this incident. Yep, expenses and bills are hard, but its far better than a funeral.

John said...

Thanks so much for pulling your thoughts together on this. All the best with the continuing recovery, too.

riverwalker said...

To: anonymous 12:36

I've had minor setbacks in the form of a broken arm, hand etc. These were merely short term problems and weren't as incapacitating as having heart surgery.

It's scary being totally reliant upon someone else for even the simplest of things, especially when you've been a "die hard" take care of it by yourself person for as long as you can remember.

I had no idea that I was walking around with one foot in the grave. Thank goodness I had a checkup and
the problem was found before I had another heart attack.

My rehab is doing well but it's going to take a significant amount of time before I get back to normal. I don't bounce back as quick as I did in my younger days.

I'm just working to maintain a positive attitude about the whole situation right now.

Thanks anon.

RW

riverwalker said...

To: John

I'm trying to turn this event into a positive experience. I'm just glad that I had a decent support network and a good emergency fund.

Looking forward to our radio interview that's coming up the first part of August. I've got quite a few additional thoughts about this subject to share with whoever may be interested.

Thanks John.

RW

Gorges Smythe said...

My wife went through cancer surgery about five years ago. It was tough. Some things will NEVER be the same again. You're spot on with this post.

riverwalker said...

To: Gorges Smythe

Things are different in many ways...some are good and some are not so good. The good thing is that hopefully I averted a fatal incident. The bad thing is that so many things are not quite the same...including the way you look at things on an everyday basis.

The best thing is to accept the necessary changes and look for ways to turn those changes into positive effects in your life.

Thanks Gorges.

RW

Survivor Mike said...

Riverwalker - glad to hear you are feeling better. All the best and love the blog

JaneofVirginia said...

I have done CPR on my own children twice in my life. Once was some years ago, when our third child, Matthew, had a near miss SIDs event at about six weeks of age. Matthew survived, and wore an apnea monitor for almost two years afterward. He is in college now. The second time was almost four years ago when our fourth child, Daniel, who had no prior medical history, experienced a sudden heart rhythm disturbance and collapsed into a cardiac arrest. That day, despite great CPR and rapid intervention from myself and then the helicopter ICU, Daniel did not survive, at least on Earth. Please know that God chooses who returns and who comes to Him, especially since I did a better job with Daniel and had much more experience, than I did with Matthew.
I am so glad you came through your challenge so well. My father lived another 30 years after his first MI (heart attack).

riverwalker said...

To: Survivor Mike

Each day that goes by it seems as though things are getting closer to normal (at least closer than they have been anyway).

Thanks Mike.

RW

riverwalker said...

To: Jane in Virginia

I too lost a child many years ago to a heart illness and it was hard coping with the loss.

I was lucky that my MI (myocardial infarction) wasn't a fatal episode. It was a serious wake-up call though.

Thanks Jane.

RW

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